Well after talking via text messages for a couple of days, he asked if he could stop by my house to see me. I agreed and he came over. We sat in the living room watching tv. He kissed me that day. He was over about an hour and a half before he had to leave to help out a friend of his.
We went out for dinner and a movie. It was a great time and we did alot of talking. It's amazing just how easy he is to talk to. And amazing that I of all people can just sit there listening quietly while he talks. We all know what a talker I am. Lol.
Things continued on this way for awhile. We'd text. He'd come over and hang out. I came to care for him very much.
Then I got the email. Always an email. He explained that he wasn't ready for a relationship and the he just wanted to be friends. Of course I didn't allow him to see my real reaction and agreed that we could be friends.
Things continued pretty much along the same way it had been.
Then came the day that I got the text message that he had found someone. Someone he said he was in love with. He wanted to come over and talk to me in person and I allowed him too. He made me promise him that I would always be his friend because he wanted me in his life. What could I do but agree?
It didn't work out with the girl and he once more turned to me.
He has confessed that he cares very much for me. I care for him. However he won't make a move because he wonders what would happen if someone else came along for either of us.
Now we're in a limbo. I feel the conversation coming. I don't like this limbo. I need to come to a definition. Friends or something more. No more of this stuck in between.
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I explained to Erin about your guy friend. She and I both think that you should stand up for yourself, and that he needs to decide what he wants. We don't think that he should string you along leaving you wondering if you are just freinds, or if you are more. Knowing you, if he wants to be a close friend and nothing else, I know you would make yourself be ok with that. However, you have the right to know where you stand. If he dates you while still keeping a lookout for someone else, then there will always be the possibility of him possibly finding someone he thinks is better. Not a good thing. :)
ReplyDeleteAnd here's my version of the conversation. If you two did decide to date, would you feel secure in the knowledge that you both were committed to each other equally? Or would you be worried that he would find someone else? Don't settle for someone who is ok with putting you aside for a passing romance, and then comes back sniffing. You are worth more than that! I recommend you making up your mind about this, and giving mister man an ultimatum, that you are worth a full shot at a dating relationship, not this possible dating with an escape plan crap. Good Luck!
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